Why do we love someone else? What makes us do that?
While we constantly crib about the fact that no one
loves me, how much thought we give about why would someone do it. What is so
special or what have I done to make me worthy of affection.
Let’s take a look at examples close by.
All of us love and adore our children, Why?
- They
are made by nature that way. Cute little faces, tiny hands and feet,
speech that makes you smile and a smile that just melts your heart like
ice cream.
- They
never lie. Say things as they are. You can trust them.
- You
feel strong and they look vulnerable – physically and emotionally. One
feels like its their duty and God’s will to protect them.
- If they
like you they like you from their heart. If they don’t they will make it
obvious with reasons. If you can improve and change you can be their
friend.
- They
never hold anything for a long time. One moment they will fight and the
next moment they will be ready to play and laugh and run with you.
- They
know nothing about jealousy, greed, hatred, contempt. We call it innocence
but isn’t it natural for us to feel that way. If you really look at it
these are absolutely unnecessary appendages to our mind.
- They
are always ready to take help as they are always ready to offer it.
As we grow up we loose many of these simple yet
powerful reasons so people can adore and like us. The worst part is that
instead of consciously working on making ourselves child like we do just the
opposite. In the name of growing up and being worldly wise we do everything
that we do not want others to. And then we complain.
If you carefully observe a large part of the
responsibility even power to make people love us lies with us.
- We hate
everyone around us and then wonder why it’s coming back.
- Look at
others with deceit and contempt. Lie at the drop of a hat.
- Do not
want to take help. Do not want to give it either.
- In
marriage we treat our partner with disrespect. Hurt to the extent of being
revengeful. Take each other for granted.
- Hold
our feelings as if it is the most important thing to die with a negative
emotion or may be it helps you to live longer. Absolutely Wrong.
- Ridicule,
Gossip and Make Fun to alleviate our own insecurity.
- Blame
others to hide our guilt.
- Almost
never use our heart. The tiny calculator keeps working non stop even if it
is the closest of relationship.
I have two angles in my life, actually my lifeline
and I have been observing their behavior with us, with others and with each
other. What I have found is that whatever they do, they do it with spontaneity,
with a natural flow. They are so happy with themselves that you want to enter
their world to forget what you have been doing to others or what others have
been doing to you.
I have come to realize that it is a mechanism that
nature has adopted to ensure growth of species since we can observe a similar behavior
in almost all other life forms. If it was not so we would have competed with
our own off springs.
Just as you need to be employable to be employed,
you need to be lovable to be loved.
So next time you feel that you are getting a raw
deal or why no one really loves you ask yourself a question – Am I lovable ?
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